Well now we all know that it’s tough for most guys to approach a girl just to talk to her. Now you could ask any guy you want and more than likely they will tell you that it is difficult to approach a girl at a bar, a party, a grocery store, etc. If they say it’s not then they are telling a lie. Now for some it may be easier than for others, but in the end it is still not an easy task.
I, for one, have never been the type to approach girls at social events. It’s just not my style to do that kind of thing. In all honesty I am relatively shy in these types of settings. (Yes I know shocking to some of you.) However, I have never been one to approach a girl at a bar, club, party, etc. In all my years of visiting “watering holes” I can safely say that I have approached about four girls in all. (Now of course this does not include the times I have been the wingman and let my buddy do all the dirty work prior to me joining the conversation) I am talking strictly about myself walking up to a random girl at a bar and trying to strike up a conversation.
Now with all that being said guys. We have all come across a time when we thought we had the girl “in the bag”. We thought that we were on easy street, but then something went wrong. I, personally, have never had a girl reject me outright. (ok ok so yes I have been rejected out right on a few occassions.) And that story goes like this…..
I was at a club in San Diego, California. The girl approached me and we started to talk. I bought her a drink and everything seemed to be flowing just right. Her and I talked for a good 30 minutes. We talked about everything, we exchanged phone numbers, and even planned to leave that night together. We hugged. We kissed. And then she proceeded to ask me the following question: “What kind of car do you drive?”
Now for some this might not seem like a “deal breaker” asking that kind of question. And at that time, in my eyes, it really didn’t mean much until I realized after I answered the question. I looked at her and said “Are you serious?” and she said, “Absolutely!” Now at that time a million thoughts and questions were going through my mind, but I decided to answer the question.
I said, “I drive a Civic EX with 18″ alloy wheels, tinted windows, and a 6 disc CD changer.” (Now realize that was me being sarcastic, simply because what girl in her right mind asks a guy what kind of car he drives upon first meeting? Who the fuck cares?) The girl then looks me up and down and says, “Well I really need to get back to my girls. It was fun chatting with you. Have a great night.”
Ummmmm..wait a second what just happened? I got rejected because of the car I drive. I guess that is what I get for living in San Diego. Now that is just one way a guy can get rejected and then we have others. I enlisted the help of some of my female friends to see what they say to a guy if they don’t want to have sex with them. After I got a couple of responses from my friends I began to think that “Wow, I too have heard those same responses.” And here I thought that the girl just really didn’t want to have sex, but in actuality she was coming up with an excuse so that she “didn’t hurt my feelings”. (Really? just tell me point blank. You really aren’t going to hurt my feelings. Cause in the end I probably really didn’t want to have sex with you anyways. I was horny, you have a va jay jay and tits and at that moment they all looked good and I wanted them. In other words you were FEMALE!)
Well here are a couple of responses that I got from my female friends:
“I said I didn’t want to ruin the friendship, to spare his ego!!! I’ve also done the ignoring approach, of course they get more stalkerish when you ignore, or just flat out say I have a boyfriend, when I clearly don’t!!!! Alot of times I just say I’m just not that into you!!!” (Now if a guy does get rejected and keeps on coming back for more then he truly is “stalkerish” and should be dealt with accordingly…i.e. pepper spray….. and guys if you hear “I’ve got a boyfriend” after you have been talking to the girl for 20-30 mins then do yourself a favor and just walk away.)