Preface: Well now it’s been just about a month since I’ve made a post. That is far too long to leave you all without some sort of entertainment and for that I apologize. I will try my best to make sure that you all have some good reading material from this day forward. Ya know reading material for you and perhaps even your children. (Ok perhaps your reading my blog to your children wouldn’t be the best decision you ever made in your life, but it might help them learn something.)
So you’re sitting there reading this and wondering why I entitled this entry, The Pussification of America. Well I guess you will just have to read the entire blog to figure that out now won’t you? Before I get into the “meat and potatoes” of my post let me say this: When I was growing up I played sports. I played t-ball (that was way easy), AYSO (I wasn’t good enough for club soccer), basketball (I’m white and can’t shoot a basketball for shit), cross country/track (I can run like no other but there really isn’t any fun in running long distances), roller hockey/ice hockey (I will kick your ass on roller blades and/or ice skates). Most of these sports were either for leagues or for high school. There was always a first place, second place, third place, and then all the rest of the sucky teams.
When I was growing up it was ok to lose. I understood that I wasn’t that good at a particular sport, but I still played because I loved it and enjoyed it. It was time spent with friends and with my dad and mom. Sure we wanted to win, but it was really about building relationships with other team members. It was about eating oranges during half-time of the soccer game. It was about having fun and enjoying being a kid. It was about learning how to take a bunch of kids and teach them how to reach a certain goal together as one not as an individual. And when it came to school I also understood that I wasn’t the smartest kid in the class. I struggled with math and chemistry. I’m smart, but I knew I wasn’t the smartest kid in the class and I never worried about it. (My parents did, but I never did. Well they were more concerned with the “Talks excessively in class” hmmmmm me talk excessively??? NOOOOOOOO! Not possible!)
Now on to the “meat and potatoes” of my post. This picture below was posted on a friends Facebook. I read it and thought to myself, “Ya know this is exactly what every kid in America needs to read and hear! Every kid that is 25 or younger needs to read this. Why? Because it is so true!” So with that I will give you my thoughts on all 11 rules… Yeah I know you are way excited aren’t you? So sit your ass down, strap yourself in, and hold on because it’s going to be a bumpy ride! There might be a few things you don’t like or don’t agree with. If that’s the case then message me back and tell me what you think. I’m always open for discussion….(Just know I’m always right! LOL…ok..ok…not always, but most of the time.)
Rule 1: Life is not fair – get used to it!: Yes life is not fair. No school in the world will teach you this. It’s just the nature of the beast. Life will not always be fair. You may be the smartest and best looking kid out there, but you will get shut out at some point. Someone will put you in your place and you will not like it, but hey that’s life! In real life there is always someone that is working harder and striving to get to the finish line before you. It is your desire and dedication that will trump that and ensure that you finish on top. There will be times that you don’t finish on top. This isn’t a time to sit back and blame others for this because it is not their fault. Stop blaming others for your failures and embrace them as your own and learn from them. You will make mistakes in your life that is just being human. It is when you learn from those mistakes and persevere that makes you a better person. There is not a road map or directions for life! You are the maker of your own destiny. A former manager of mine once told me the following and it is so true: SUCCESS IS A JOURNEY NOT A DESTINATION!
Rule 2: The world won’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself!: No one cared about my self-esteem when I was growing up. My parents didn’t care about my self-esteem. It’s not a knock on them as parents. When I was growing up we didn’t worry about self-esteem. It was just part of growing up. Being a kid. Learning how to interact with other kids. Ya know socializing with others. There are some of you out there that I didn’t like in elementary school, junior high, or high school. Just as I probably wasn’t liked by some of you as well. (Mainly because my dad and step-mom were FBI agents..but that is another discussion…LOL) But that was just part of growing up we all had different paths in life. And now that we are all adults we can all look back and laugh at the things we did back then and still be friends. Sure we all like praise from our parents and to be told that they are proud of us. However, the entire self-esteem thing is out of control. Let’s just give a pacifier to every kid out there today and tell them that they kick ass and they can do NO wrong!
Rule 3: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won’t be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both. (Ok before I tackle this one…ummmm a VP with a car phone? Do they even have car phones these days? Obviously we can assume that this little picture I posted is not really a speech that Bill Gates gave recently to high school kids…however, lets not take away from the message it sends..now onward to my diatribe…) Yes we all know that NO ONE will make $60,000 out of high school or be a VP of a company. These things take hard work and dedication. (Well there are some that are wicked smart and develop Facebook, Google, Instagram, etc and make ridiculous amounts of money while in college….) So with that I really don’t have much more to say about this one….:P
Rule 4: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss: Ya know I did have some tough teachers through the years. Perhaps my favorite one and one that pushed me the most was Mr. Bill Csellak. Even through all of my college courses I always remember his class like it was yesterday. I have a feeling I’m not the only one that feels that way! Now with that being said….wait till you get a boss. This is so true. My last manager at Bank of America inspired me and made me who I am professionally like no one else. Why? Because he allowed me to be me! He pushed me to exceed in everything that I did. That is what good leaders do. He made me into the leader I wanted to be. I, in turn, was able to pass that along to my staff when I was “the boss”. A true “boss” is also a teacher. Because that “boss” should want you to succeed in what you do because it is a direct reflection on them as a leader.
Rule 5: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity: The work ethic with the younger generation is horrible. They don’t even know what work ethic means these days. They think that having a job is their right not a privilege. Ummm sorry you ungrateful asshole, but a job is a privilege. If you can’t perform the job as it is laid out for without bitching/whining/complaining then I am sure I can find someone that can replace you and do ten times the amount of work you are doing WITHOUT complaining. And on top of that I bet that person is 15 – 20 years OLDER than you! And why will they work harder than you? Because they were instilled with the proper beliefs and ethics to understand that NOTHING is ever given to you in this world! They understand that HARD WORK will pay off in the end! At the age of 12 I already had a job! I was a paper delivery boy for the News Chronicle (Now the Ventura County Star). Every day after school I would fold the papers and put them in my sack and then ride my bike around and deliver the paper to over 200 customers. Then on Saturday and Sundays I would be up at 6am folding papers, putting the ads and comics inside the Sunday paper, and then ride around to deliver them no later than 8am. Then I would have to ride around once a month and knock on the door to collect the payment for the paper.
Rule 6: If you mess up, it’s not your parent’s fault, so don’t whine about your mistakes, learn from them: Let’s be honest here! I fucked up when I was growing up! So did you! I apologized a few times for my fuck ups! I learned from them! My parents didn’t shield me from them or make excuses! They made me own up to my mistakes. They made me admit when I was wrong. They made me admit defeat. They helped me understand how I made a mistake. They explained to me why I was wrong. They let me grow from those mistakes. They let me learn from my mistakes. However, they were always there to pick me up and made sure everything was alright. My parents didn’t sugar coat anything with me. If I fucked up they let me know. And we talked about it. If I fucked up on something one time that was it I wouldn’t do it again. (Ok maybe sometimes I would, but usually by the second time I learned my lesson) The point is nowadays if a kid fucks up there is no accountability. Someone always gets blamed for it. It’s never just the kids fault for being a dumb ass!!! Come on now you know you were a dumb ass at one point, but you learned from it and your parents helped with that learning process! Now we blame the system, the school, or society…..
Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren’t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent’s generation. try delousing the closet in your own room: Ok this one doesn’t really pertain to Gen X (come on now you fuckers that’s OUR generation…ya know those born in the early to mid 70’s! LOL) I realize my parents sacrificed A LOT to provide for me. I could NEVER repay them for all that they have done for me. Now I am not talking about any of my friends or their kids in any of this, but I see it time and time again on the news about how kids are these days. This is a fast paced life they are living….With facebook, twitter, myspace (not so much anymore), and all of the other social media life has been taking away from all of us. Kids don’t “grow up” anymore. I see friends kids that are 12/13 years old and they act as though they are 18-21 already….What ever happened to being a kid and having fun????
Rule 8: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT! In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they’ll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn’t bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life: This one really bugs me. I have many friends that are teachers! Teachers are, by far, the most under-appreciated profession in this country. I hear about all the work that goes into these standardized tests and I cringe. Life isn’t about standardized tests! We need to have winners and losers in school! Not everyone is cut out for this world. Do I feel bad for the stupid ones? No I don’t! Is there really anything you or any other teacher can do for the stupid ones? No not really! That’s just the nature of the beast! There is always a place for stupid people in our society! This may seem harsh to some, but that is the problem with our country! NOT EVERYONE CAN BE A WINNER! This is not a Utopian Society we live in. There are winners! There are losers! There are smart people! There are stupid people. There is a place in society for each of these people. Let’s stop giving a pacifier to everyone and realize that, “Hey, Well Johnny ya know what you really just aren’t going to amount to anything so here’s an application to the local gas station.” (I know I will get some heat for that, but really that is truly the facts! Not everyone is cut out to be a leader, a teacher, a doctor, a lawyer, or a business man/woman.)
Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don’t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time: Ok first let me say this….The smartest people I know that are my friends are: TEACHERS!!! Now of course I’m sure they will all say that they wanted to help the future of America and enjoy watching the kids learn and grow as individuals…..However, I really know what is going on here! They just wanted to be able to have summers off just like their students do! See I told you TEACHERS are the smartest people I know! FREAKING GENIUS’ I TELL YA!!!! Now with that being said….Attention all Gen Y, Z and whatever else they call those saggy pants people….A real job is tough! Its 40 hours a week if you’re lucky. Most jobs are pushing 50 hours a week. And with that you may get ONE week of vacation. If you work at the company long enough you may get four or five weeks vacation….but that’s after working for the same company for 15 + years. So don’t think you getting a job is going to allow you to take off anytime you like. You must live by the motto: WORK HARD!!!! PLAY HARDER!!!!
Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs: Let me add to this…In real life people are not always partying it up, living with the opposite sex, drinking copious amounts of alcohol (unless you come to my house), and having random sex. (Jersey Shore anyone?) Real life, for the most part, requires 40-60 hours of work per week to earn a pay check. Real life means dedication, loyalty, and responsibility. Nothing will be handed to you. You have to work for everything you get. Real life is NOT fair! get used to it!
Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you’ll end up working for one: I can’t say that I have ever actually worked for a nerd. However, if anyone ever works for me then well I rest my case!!!!!!!!
In the end I am just tired of the political correctness bullshit! The Pussification of America! We all can’t finish first. We might finish second or third, but the next time we will come back stronger! We will strive to make sure we finish first that next time. We won’t give up! The world is a crazy place and we must have failure before we have success. If we teach our kids that success is the only option then when they do fail (because they will) how do we explain it to them. Sports Leagues don’t give out trophies anymore for first, second, or third place anymore! Why? What kind of lesson is that? If I had kids and they came in second or third I would tell them that they sucked this year, but then I would say we need to work harder for them to finish first next year. It is perfectly ok for a kid to have failure in his or her life. Failure is the building block to success. Do you think Bill Gates ever failed? Do you think Donald Trump ever failed? (Trump filed bankruptcy at one point) Michael Jordan failed! Tiger Woods??? (Epic FAIL!) Humans fail it is in our nature to fail, but it is the drive and the determination in all of us that allows us to learn from our failures and succeed! If at first you don’t succeed…try try try again! What ever happened to that lesson?
Until Next Time,